Any marriage or home without rules may likely ends up in failure, and a marriage and home that does not respect it rules may likely ends up in disaster. Marriage is like is a country (Nigeria in particular) that lay down their rule but fine it difficult to follow and respect their rules. As you can see here in Nigeria, we have several rule but are we working or respecting the rules? If we do boko haram will not find it possible trying to terrorize us or find it possible to adopt our girls I pray that God who dealt with pharaoh for the release of the children of Israel should deal with them to release our girls in Jesus name. #BOKO HARAM BRING BACK OUR GIRLS
As I said any marriage that has no rule or doesn’t respect it rules is likely to fail that is when people will consider divorce as a solution mean while, divorce instead of being the solution it complicate the whole issues. In my previous publication #THE RULES OF MARRIAGE PT ONE
I do lay down some important rule to help you guide and sustain your marriage. This rule is also good for new relationship and friendship. Today I have this for you hope it will help you save your home.
1. ESTABLISH YOUR OWN PRIVATE HOME: Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
God rules is specific. A married couples must leave father and mother to establish their own home, even if finances requires that it be a one-room apartment. Husband and wife should decide together on such polices and then each of them should inform their relatives of their plans. They must remain firm no matter who opposes.
2. CONTINUE YOUR COURTSHIP: 1Peter 4:8 Above all hold unfailing your love for one another, since love covers a multitude of sins.
Prov. 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
1Cor. 734 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
Rom. 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; 11 Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord; 12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;
*Continue or perhaps revive the courtesies of courtship in your married life.
*Successful marriage do not just happened, it must be developed by the married couples.
*Do not take each other for granted, or the monotony that result will destroy your marriage.
*Keep love growing by expressing love to one another or it will die and you will drift apart.
*Love and happiness does not found by seeking them for yourself but rather by giving them to others.
*Spend as much time as you can doing this together as the slogan say “TOGETHER FOREVER” if you will get along well.
*Learn to greet others with enthusiasm.
*Relax, visit, shop, sight see, eat together etc.
*Do not overlook the little courtesies, encouragement and affectionate acts.
*Surprise each other with little gifts or favors.
*Love each other
*Do not take more out of marriage than you put into it.
3. REMEMBER THAT GOD JOINED YOU TOGETHER IN MARRIAGE: Matt. 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Has love almost disappeared from your home? The devil (the notorious home-breaker) is responsible for this. Don’t forget that God Himself joined you together in marriage and he intend for you to stay together happily. He will bring happiness and love into your lives if you obey His divine rules (commandment). With God, all things are possible. Matt. 19:26 But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.
Do not despair God who place love in the heart of a missionary for leprous savage, He can easily gives you love for each other if you will let Him.
4. GUARD YOUR THOUGHTS-DO NOT LET YOUR SENSES TRAP YOU: Prov. 23:7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.
Prov.4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
Phil. 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. things.
9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.
The wrong kinds of thinking can destroy your marriage. The devil will trap you with thoughts like these: “our marriage was a mistake” “she does not understand me” “I can’t take much more of this” “we can always divorce if necessary” “I will go home to mother” “he smiled at that woman.” Stop thinking such thoughts or your marriage is gone because your thoughts and senses govern your actions. Avoid seeing, saying, reading or hearing anything (or associate with anyone who) suggest impurity or unfaithfulness. Uncontrol thoughts are like automobile in neutral on a hill, anything can happen and the result is always a disaster.
5. NEVER RETIRE FOR THE NIGHT ANGRY WITH EACH OTHER- Eph. 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27 Neither give place to the devil.
32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
James 5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
Phil. 3:13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.
To remain angry and upset over grievances (big or little) is exceedingly dangerous. Unless quickly resolve, little problem becomes set in your mind as convictions and attitudes adversely affecting your whole philosophy of life. This is why God says to let anger cool before retiring at night. Be big enough to forgive and to say with sincerity “I’m sorry.” After all, no one is perfect; and you both are in the same team, so be sportsman like enough to honestly admit a mistake when you make it, it takes nothing away from you. Beside, making up is a very pleasant experience, with unusual power to draw married partner closer together. God suggest it and it works.
DIVORCE ITS SELF IS NOT THE GREATEST DESTROYER OF MARRIAGE, BUT RATHER LACK OF LOVE AND UNDERSTAND. GIVE LOVE A CHANCE, LOVE ALWAYS WINS AND BRINGS HOPE. MAY GOD HELP US IN JESUS NAME.